In the last couple of years, relationships have changed from many points of view. While there are millions of couple all around the world dating, living together or even planning to get married while clearly in love, there is another type of relationship known as friends with benefits which is quite different.
In the case that you’re thinking about getting into one, or trying to keep the one you currently have going, there are some things you need to keep in mind before anything else:
1.Understand what a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship is
This point is quite self-explanatory while it is also one of the most important things in being able to start or continue successful ‘friends with benefits’ relationship. In order to be able to do so, you need to make sure that you understand the following factors:
- These relationships usually do not imply sentiments more profound than a friendship
- The main purpose is to have somebody to talk to, or to make love.
- Friends with benefits relationships mean that both parts are free to be with someone else, as long as it hasn’t evolved in a real relationship.
2. Make sure the other part knows that you’re starting a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship
By doing so, you’ll be able to avoid any uncomfortable situations in the long run in the case that the other part asks for favours which are too big, or you simply want to have another friend with benefits. In order to make sure that no confusions are made, take the following precautions:
Talking represents the number one way to let the other person know that the relationship that you two are getting into doesn’t require sacrifices and the only thing that is asked from the both persons is to be willing to meet up and have fun from time to time.
- Give hints
In the case that you’re not willing to talk openly about this subject, make sure that you give off the necessary hints in order to ensure that the other part knows exactly the type of relationship that she/he is getting into. These can include hanging out with others, or simply not being too implicated in making sure that everything happens in a certain way.
- Don’t give gifts or share too many emotions
Caring about one another is alright as long as it doesn’t turn into love. In order to have a successful ‘friends with benefits’ relationship, try your best in order to stay out of giving and receiving gifts, while also sharing too many emotions.
3. Don’t catch feelings
This can be considered the second most important tip when dealing with this type of relationship. By making sure from the start that you’re not in love with a certain person and the entire point of being friends with benefits is to have fun and make love, it is important that you try your best in order to stop yourself from developing any feeling towards the other part.
With this in mind, make sure to ask yourself whether you’ve developed feelings and if yes, try your best to get rid of them in the case that you would like to continue a ‘friends with benefits relationship’ and not ruin everything or turn it into something else. However, it is important to keep in mind that this guide is written with the idea of maintaining a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship and not starting anything else. If you both feel like an actual relationship should be started, then try your best in order to make sure that it happens.
If not, simply follow the tips which have been outlined above and try your best in order not to give away too much of your time or resources for such a relationship, as they usually don’t require such things to be done.