Small kids who have just started speaking or become part of newly formed groups such as schools come across a variety of things never experienced by them before. Most important of such experiences is expanded vocabulary and exposure to swear words or expressions of frustration normally displayed by the individuals that they look upon as their role model. They tend to copy the body language, vocabulary and also the responding style of the personality they are easily influenced from.
Bad-mouthing – a common problem among growing kids
Bad mouthing is the most common problem found in teenagers too. This is the age when they assume themselves to be aware of all the rules of the world and in fact, are all set to have their own rules for taking on the world around them. Thus, they do not want to be instructed or reminded and therefore, they try sucking in their parents into fights and verbal attacks where they want to get their demands met without doing what is expected from them. So, if you find your child using expressions like ‘F— you, Mom! You stay out of it’, you have reached the point where you need to tell him who actually the boss in the house is.
Let’s take a look at the points that may help you sail through this challenging task.
1. Making a rule is really important.
If you want your children not to use derogatory words or make suggestive gestures, it is important to roll out a code of conduct for the whole family and house inmates. Making use of bad words completely taboo and ensure that none of the grown-ups are using any defamatory slang especially when the children are around.
2. Potty words need to be dealt more carefully.
This needs to be done very much in correct tone as you also require using such words while training the kids for adopting hygienic practices. So, if you are finding expressions like ‘You faggot!’ or ‘You look like a shit!’ coming from your child’s mouth, you need to correct your kid right then without delay. Tone definitely has to be friendly but firm.
3. Watch out what are the kids being exposed to.
Avoid certain TV programs that contain swearing and bad expressions. Watching too much TV develops tendency of copying their favorite characters and language that they use.
4. Talk about the fact that words are indicative of good manners.
It is really important for him to understand the difference between grandma and her girl friend. Hence, advise him to talk softly and respectfully when he is dealing with elderly people. Appreciate his good behavior when he does so and praise him openly to boost his morale.
5. Word abuse should never be laughed away.
When the kid is growing every new thing that he does looks innocent. So curb your desire to laugh when he is making suggestive gestures or using words that do not suit his age. Your serious expressions will tell him that something is wrong and he will be more careful next time.
6. Your language is the mirror of your upbringing.
Tell your kid very sternly that whatever he says and how he behaves indicates his class. Guide him that using slangs is not cool thing to do and that it puts him in the same category as that of an uneducated child. Also make him emotional about the fact that his using bad words will bring bad name to you.
All such practices can help in keeping the kids away from swearing rather effectively. Bringing out the best in your child is definitely your job and doing it smartly can earn you lot of respect among your peers.